Ep 15: Dating While in Quarantine - Part 1
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Dating Hotline
Ep. 15
Dating While in Quarantine - Part 1
SHOW NOTES
- DATING HOTLINE -
Ep 15: Dating While in
Quarantine - Part 1
Host: Chloé Miller
Production: AND, SWIPE RIGHT INC.
Show Music: Andrew Langdon
Transition Music: Nikolas Thorpe
“ Dating Hotline’s Frequently Asked Questions while in QuarantineQuarantine Q 1: I hooked up with a guy before quarantine - is he quarantine-ing me or is he ghosting me? "
-Chloé Miller
Founder, & CEO of AND, SWIPE RIGHT
EPISODE DESCRIPTION
In the fifteenth episode of Dating Hotline presented by AND, SWIPE RIGHT - Chloé changes it up and discusses the 10 most frequently asked questions during this quarantine. Part one tackles 3 pressing questions: 1. I hooked up with a guy before quarantine and now I haven't heard from him - is he quarantine-ing me or is he ghosting me? 2. What’s a glow up plan? What should I include in mine? 3. I’m lonely and I want to meet new people during this quarantine. Do you have anything at Dating Hotline or AND, SIWPE RIGHT to facilitate that?
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Dating Hotline
Ep 15:
Dating While In Quarantine - Part 1
Hi, Dating Hotlines - I did a little recon and I’ve come up with some solutions for dating while in quarantine. so instead of talking about power couples and how to achieve that level of relationship goals, we’re shelving that for more pertinent information. Over the next couple of weeks we’re going to discuss the 10 most popular questions I’ve received throughout this quarantine. Ya ready? Let’s go.
Show Music
Helloooooo and welcome to the 15th episode of Dating Hotline, this is your host, Chloé Miller. Dating Hotline is presented by AND, SWIPE RIGHT - an online dating & relationship consultancy. Through services like Dating & Relationship Coaching, Image Consulting, Personal Styling, and creating engaging dating profiles AND SWIPE RIGHT is an online dating consultancy offering support throughout all stages of dating. AND, SWIPE RIGHT is setting a high-value standard in online dating by empowering single women and men with dating techniques.
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Let’s talk about dating while in quarantine. It’s tough and honestly if we thought online dating was hard dating while in Q is even more difficult. So, we’re focusing these next couple episodes specifically around the idea of Dating Qs while in Q. The new format includes 3 Qs/episodes so keep those Quarantine Qs coming our way, this is only part one...now, let’s get right to these questions
Dating Hotline’s Frequently Asked Questions while in Quarantine
Quarantine Q 1: I hooked up with a guy before quarantine - is he quarantine-ing me or is he ghosting me?
A 1: I think its quarantine. But feel this one out based on the details of your hook up. Was it a first time hook up or have you been semi hooking up and this just happened once we all self-isolated? The point is, I think given the circumstances, you should extend the benefit of the doubt to the quarantine and assume he’s at home doing nothing just like you’re at home doing nothing. This quarantine is creating a lot of insecurities in relationships and even situtaitonships because the communication is slowing down and without being able to see each other in person everyone can see where this is leading...but I believe things will go back to normal like a light switch flipping the lights on when this quarantine is over. Yes, there will be changes whenever the quarantine is lifted and some people won’t go back to who they were hooking up with before because frankly, too much time has passed between IRL hangouts. Even though it feels like time is standing still, it’s not. We are all changing and growing each day and so, to think that what and who we were pre-quarantine is going to be the same exact fit post-quarantine is naive. For the most part, yes, but this quarantine experience is changing each and every one of us and hopefully we all come out of this with more compassion for each other and recognize loneliness is felt by everyone - regardless of what you look like. We are all the same.
At this point, my advice would be to measure the communication. It seems like the average response time is about 24-48 hours. Now, pre-quarantine this seems absurd and actually rude, But dating in the quarantine is tough because there will be a point where there’s just nothing else to say. So, consider the 24-48 hours response window the quarantine new norm. This will give everyone the check-in confidence of yeah ok cool we’re still talking but also spare everyone from the “what are you up to, nothing, yeah same.” conversation on repeat.
Q 2: What’s a glow up plan? What should I include in mine?
This is your plan to take advantage of the time you have when you burn out on tv binging. What are you doing for you that will keep your mind stimulated and will stir your soul? I recommend doing something that will show you your progress every day rewarding you with an accomplished goal at the end. For example - many people exercise but now, create a two-week challenge to add to your normal routine so that you have something new to go after. Maybe that’s an extra rep or maybe that’s waking up earlier to create the morning routine habit. You’ll know what that is for you if this is your thing. For others, start a book or start an online course. There are SO MANY places offering free online courses during the month of April. Brands know they have a captivated audience with this quarantine and if they can provide you with valuable information they will create a loyal audience. Take advantage of the freebies you guys! AND, SWIPE RIGHT is offering FREE ZOOM calls with our founder and last week, 5 new people already took us up on it! Their feedback has been so heartwarming, One woman said: “Thank you for your help Chloé, you are truly my guardian angel down on earth.” And, another client responded with “Wow, that’s great. I wouldn’t have thought of that in a million years. Thank you so much” when he asked about a good opening line…
I’m offering 1 free hour, but in reality, I work with my clients until they feel satisfied, which last week averaged about two hours. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THESE FREE APPOINTMENTS. They are only available through the month of April - hi told you brands are capitalizing on these strategies. But more so, we don’t want you to have to choose between your rent money and your happiness. We think you can have both and that’s why we are providing our service for free. Make your appointment with me, by DMing our Instagram account @ANDSWIPERIGHT and we’ll send you the private zoom link.
Q 3: I’m lonely and I want to meet new people during this quarantine. Do you have anything at Dating Hotline or AND, SIWPE RIGHT to facilitate that?
Yes - I’ve started a google form for all of my self-isolated singles. One of our Dating Hotline Listeners - Genevieve @GENUNINELY.SOCIAL you guys this girl get’s social media like we get dating - tipped us off on a brilliant idea coming out of where else - Boulder CO. Love is Quarantine - Boulder. Its a grassroots matchmaking service for virtual dates for local Boulder residents. We love her idea but we’re doing something a bit different.
I present to you, our QT Group - Quarantined Together Group. Head over to the AND, SWIPE RIGHT website to sign up for these virtual hangouts. Everyone is welcome to join! We are creating a social hang out for people to meet other self-isolated people but under these circumstances don’t have the opportunity to meet up IRL. I have a couple of ideas of ways we can support this group from group zoom calls to scheduling private zoom chats with other group members, but if you’re looking for more social connectivity, come join us for a new type of social relationship. Focusing on friendships first, if loving feelings sprout that’s wonderful, but our intention is to socially connect individuals. We think this will relieve the pressure of jumping on a zoom call with a stranger. Quarantined Together or QT is another social circle you add to your now virtual social life.
The google form for the QT group sign up is on the AND, SWIPE RIGHT website under Quarantined Together Group Sign Up on the top menu bar. Sign up now, to be a founding QT member. Our first Zoom hangout next Thursday - April 16 at 8 pm CST. After you sign up through the google form, please check your email for our QT zoom hangout invitation.
Curves & Kisses
We are swerving around these curves and blowing kisses as we go…
Curves -
Not spending this time reflecting and getting to know yourself. PLEASE take this time to gift yourself something intrinsically rewarding every day for the next week. If you’re still watching tv and not realizing that there are other ways to spend your time right now. I think this moth specifically provides an opportunity for some good to come out of this pandemic. New hobbies, new interests, and new opportunities will sprout and you will develop those skills in the quiet of this downtime. Pick up that book you’ve heard so many people talking about - Talking To Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell, start a new online course studying something you’ve always been interested in but never had the time for, carve out 5 minutes to just sit with yourself enjoying your own company, only thinking about yourself for those 5 minutes. Build yourself up, be your own cheerleader, hyper yourself for the day. Give yourself the pep talk you need to remember how incredible you are and that you have the internet at your fingertips - anything is possible. You just have to start exploring.
Kisses -
Earlier this week I heard the cutest virtual date story that I have to share. Our kiss definitely goes out to this guy because HE GET’S IT!
This man and woman match on a dating app and after chatting and enjoying texting each other, decide to progress their relationship. Like the majority of the single world right now, a zoom date is kinda intimidating but she expressed her feelings and they both discussed how awkward a zoom FIRST DATE is but they were enjoying each other’s company and they both wanted more so they agreed and set the plans and scheduled the date. 10 minutes before their date is scheduled to start, her doorbell rings and she finds a contactless pizza delivery with a message from him. She brings the pizza inside and jumps on the call with a smile and finds - that he’s ordered his own pizza so they could share the meal together even though they are not together.
He not only was thoughtful and sent her a gift - in this case, the pizza - he also is supporting local businesses by ordering two meals and he did this just to set the mood for their zoom date. Now tell me, do you think you would feel nervous or awkward getting on a zoom call with a man who just rolled out the quarantine red carpet? This is virtual chivalry baby, I like this.
I want you to look at this as if your relationship just went into a long-distance relationship. You really need to focus on thoughtful gifts and gestures you can do to express your feelings because there will be a time when you’ll have run out of words but you still need to communicate “thinking of you”. If you need ideas - hit me up - I have PLENTY of long-distance relationship experience and I can give you some great ideas of thoughtful gestures….
Ok, that’s our show for this week - thank you for tuning in to Dating Hotline - presented by AND, SWIPE RIGHT - Chicago’s #1 full-service dating and dating & relationship consultancy. This is your host Chloé Miller. Thank you to our show music composer Andrew Langdon and our transition composer Nikolas Thorpe. If there's something you want to talk about in the future episodes, there's a link in the show notes where you can submit your stories. Otherwise, you guys, DM me your dating questions, email me your thoughts, and please, please, please tell all of your friends to listen. Don’t forget to leave us a review - we want 5 stars! Dating hotline releases new episodes every Wednesday at 11 am CENTRAL. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcast and follow us on Spotify.
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