Ep 33: Winter Dating In COVID

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Dating Hotline

Ep. 33
Winter Dating In COVID

SHOW NOTES

- DATING HOTLINE -
Ep 33: Winter Dating In COVID

Host: Chloé Miller
Production: AND, SWIPE RIGHT INC.
Show Music: Andrew Langdon
Transition Music: Nikolas Thorpe

“If a parked car conversation is a therapy session then a driving car conversation is a date."

-Chloé Miller
Founder, & CEO of AND, SWIPE RIGHT

 

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

In the 33rd episode of Dating Hotline presented by AND, SWIPE RIGHT - Chloé has finished her first semester of grad school and she finally has a chance to get back in touch. She shares changes that are coming to AND, SWIPE RIGHT and she gifts you a holiday present, her favorite winter date idea that is now, more than ever perfect for dating in COVID. Dating Hotline Question # 1: How can I date in winter when everything is closed for COVID? Dating Hotline Question #2: How do I execute a driving date without looking cheap?

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Dating Hotline Podcast
EP 33: Winter Dating In COVID

Hi Dating Hotlienrs, What’s up you guys? It’s been a long time, shouldn’t left you. Ahhh yes it’s good to be back in your life, I missed you guys. This is our Dating Hotline holiday special, meaning I am on winter break and finally have some time to get back in touch with you guys. I’ll tell you all about grad school in a minute but I wanted to say hiiii, I missed you.

Ok, so since this is our Holiday special, I’m going to gift you one of my personal favorite date ideas that’s actually perfect for dating during covid during the winter. Ya ready? Let’s go.

SHOW MUSIC

Hellloooooo! Welcome to the 33rd episode of Dating Hotline, this is your host, Chloé Miller. Dating Hotline is presented by AND, SWIPE RIGHT - an online dating & relationship consultancy. AND SWIPE RIGHT provides support to singles throughout all stages of dating with services like dating image consulting and dating wellness concierge. AND, SWIPE RIGHT is setting a high-value standard in online dating by empowering single women and men with dating techniques.

Thank you for downloading our Christmas Special- Dating Hotline releases new episodes honestly when I can find the time as a full-time grad student. Sooooo your best best is to just subscribe so you won’t miss the next episode.  Thank you thank you for our 5-star rating on Apple Podcast, you guys I’m so happy you enjoy our show. I love my listeners. We post all of this information like our show notes, the links to the business & products we feature and other gems like our newsletter - on the AND, SWIPE RIGHT website -check it out andswiperight.com

You guys, I finished my first semester of grad school at Naropa University and I have to be honest with you, I was sad to see it end. I loved it so much, I feel so grateful to be learning from this community of incredible people. Boulder has been nothing short of a dream, I wake up every day to the breathtaking views of the mountains while I get to learn more about what I love. You guys, my heart is so full. 

I’ve learned so many valuable pieces that I want to share with you so I’m changing things up. In 2020 I’ll be launching my new offering through AND, SWIPE RIGHT. Yes, we are still doing everything we did before but we have SO much more to share with you. You can expect image consulting packages for dating profiles, personal styling, and first date practice. And you can also expect, Dating Wellness memberships that provide wellness concierge services for your dating life. These include a designated private dating therapist, mindful dating techniques, high-value dating techniques, and mixed modalities for custom-blended wellness programs to support your mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Our dating lives are our most emotional parts of life, and yet there’s little to no support for when things go bad. We want to change that. Our Dating Wellness membership is a holistic approach to supporting your entire self through all of your dating experiences. I’m really excited to share this with you guys as I’ve been compiling this knowledge from years of lived-experiences, grad school education, and professional training. This dating wellness concierge service is all of my life’s skills, knowledge, and resources compiled together to help you heal and succeed. AND, SWIPE RIGHT has always been committed to supporting you through all stages of dating, and now we support your mind, your body, and your soul. 


Dating Hotline Question 1: How can I date in winter when everything is closed for COVID?


This is such a great question and don’t worry, I have you covered. It’s such a pain that in-door dining is not an option as the temperature drops, what are your options if you’re living in a colder climate? Here you guys this is one of my foolproof date ideas. It’s my favorite and it’s so simple. Here’s what you’re going to do - Take your crush on a driving date. But wait, do you know what a driving date is? It’s simple, you go for a long, pretty drive with the person you want to spend more time with. That’s it. 

Now you’re going to have to gauge the situation to see if this date is appropriate for a first date or if this is something better saved for date #2 or 3. PRO TIP: If you know this person and you’re taking the relationship to a dating level then is a great date idea for a first date. But if this is someone you’re meeting online, back pocket this move for date 3. 

My favorite date of 2020 was driving through Denver looking at all the house’s Christmas lights and decorations. It was so much fun you guys, he mapped out a route so he knew where we were going so I was able to just enjoy the adventure with him. Plus he had sparkling water waiting for me (Pellegrino, hi let’s talk!). It’s the little things guys, they send the biggest messages. Then we stopped and got coffee before walking through a park while the sun was setting. Um, helloooooo romance! You guys, I was swoooooooning on the inside. Definitely didn’t let that show cuz it was a first date but I’m sharing this with you so you understand how much putting in EFFORT will wrap the other person around your finger - a key to seduction. Remember that. 

While we were on our date, we saw a live drive-through nativity scene, (for real) a drive-in Hanukkah movie, and then we stopped for dinner afterward. It was a really fun date because it was so simple and yet it was such an adventure. Don’t overthink it, sometimes there’s beauty in the simplicity - especially now.

You guys, bonus points for my date, I mentioned my favorite street earlier in the evening and he remembered so that we drove it on the way home. I told him it reminds me of Paris and driving that road brought back all the feels from my trips to Paris. He made that happen. You guys, this is mindful dating. We spent time connecting on a deep emotional level while we were on an adventure. 

So this my Christmas gift to you, the best COVID date idea. I’ll create driving routes if you want me too, I know exactly the roads to drive down, the length the drive should take, and the views you’ll have so that you can admire the pretty houses, and really connect with your partner. If you want these Date Drives, get in touch info@andswiperight.com.  

Dating Hotline Question #2: How do I execute a driving date without looking cheap?

Here’s how you do it on a first date so that it doesn’t look like you’re not trying. First impressions are important, and therefore you can impress your date if you’re smart about this. Now since the date activity is simple, you’re going to want to put in some effort beforehand and figure out where you will drive. Ultimately you’re going to end up driving in a giant loop but what you see along your drive is up to you. If you choose wisely and create a fun sightseeing drive the experience will obviously be more enjoyable than just aimlessly driving down streets.

I recommend driving through the pretty neighborhoods to A] see the giant mansions that people actually call home, and B] it’s a prettier drive. You can talk about the beautiful sights that you’re seeing but my guess is you’ll be more distracted with talking to each other rather than focusing on what’s outside of the car. 

The beauty of these driving dates is that it plays with a lot of different dynamics. 

First, the power dynamics are adjusted. When you go on a date and sit across the table from the person you’re trying to get to know, you literally have a table between you and thus energetically you have something between you preventing you from connecting freely. When you sit in the car NEXT to your date, you are removing all barriers between yourself and you are now physically and energetically OPEN to meeting and connecting with this person. You’re also sitting next to each other, which is less confrontational than sitting opposite of each other, meaning it’s a more relaxing environment. This is so subtle, but I dare you to pay attention to this the next time you sit down across the table from a stranger and when you sit next to someone in the car. You’ll feel it. Driving dates are disarming and that’s what you want when you’re to connect with someone. Plus, the added bonus of sitting next to each other means that it’s easier to touch each other throughout the date. This means you’re breaking the invisible physical touch barrier increasing your chances for a kiss at the end of the date. 

The other reason this date idea is soooo good is that cars are safe spaces, they are closed environments, creating a private, safe container to open up and be vulnerable with each other. Vulnerability begets vulnerability and when these are shared, the bond between you two deepens. This is the foundation of your relationship, these dates help you determine how much you have in common, not to mention your emotional compatibility. If a parked car conversation is a therapy session then a driving car conversation is a date. Driving or riding in the car is just enough of a distraction to lower your inhibitions and you’ll show up honestly and authentically with each other. These private conversations will come from the heart. 

Now the real power move here is bringing something to drink. I recommend a bottle of sparkling water - (Pellegrino you want to sponsor me? Get in touch!) But you're bringing a drink for both of you and that thoughtfulness serves two purposes: 1. You were thinking about her and wanting to make sure she had something to drink for the drive. 2. It shows you put effort into this from the moment she gets in the car. Guys this is a strong start that will impress on such a deep level because it’s thoughtful. Everyone is attracted to this quality when it comes to partnership.

I want you to remember this, when you’re planning a driving date, you need two elements: drinks and a driving route. The drinks will highlight your thoughtfulness and the driving route will showcase your creativity with simple adventures. 


Curves & Kisses 
We are swerving around these curves & blowing kisses as we go

Curves - Our curve this week goes out to Canceling on your date hours before the date with the excuse “let’s wait till COVID settles down,” followed up with “I want to be a part of the solution”. 

No, no no no no, this is unacceptable. You don’t get to cancel the day of because of covid. If you’re canceling because of COVID then suggest a Zoom date. Otherwise, this is just a cowardly excuse to bail on the other person. Come on guys, 2020 is hard enough we don’t need to add to it!

Kisses - Our Kiss this week goes to our new holiday traditions, our friends that are our stand-in family this season, and everyone’s ability to roll with the 2020 punches. This year has been WILD for so many reasons and I wish the good side was a bit more lopsided but, I honestly can say, it’s been a year that has brought so much change to my life, I’m grateful for the growth. Now, I hope you find yourself with someone under the mistletoe. That’s always been a Christmas dream of mine. There’s this scene from one of my favorite Christmas movies ‘While You Were Sleeping.” It’s a classic Christmas 90s movie set in Chicago with a bit of a love story - oh it stirs all the feels for me around the holidays but there’s this one scene where the main characters find themself under the mistletoe and that kiss changes everything. I hope you find a kiss that changes everything for you. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Ok, that’s our show for this week - thank you for tuning in to Dating Hotline - presented by AND, SWIPE RIGHT - an online dating & relationship consultancy. This is your host Chloé Miller. Thank you to our music composer Andrew Langdon for our show music and to Nikolas Thorpe for composing our transition music. If there's something you want to talk about in future episodes, there's a link in the show notes where you can submit your stories. Otherwise, you guys, DM me your dating questions, email me your thoughts, and please, please, please tell all of your friends to listen. Dating Hotline releases new episodes when we can. Please subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcast - we want 5 stars - and follow us on Spotify. 

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Chloé Miller, MA, LPC, MFTCAND, SWIPE RIGHTComment